Peace or no Peace?

Have you ever been put in a position or propositioned with something life-changing, but there were decisions that needed to be made drastically fast? You know, the whirlwind, I don't even drink my iced coffee that fast kinda fast! Yea, it's pretty intense, right? But here's the thing, it's not just you making this decision, it's also your spouse. Now, you might think, no biggie, we are on the same page. We got this, this isn't going to take much work. I'm sure that's true in some instances, but this was not one of them for us. My husband and I often times find ourselves on the same page, but in this instance, we found ourselves semi-together but also on opposite sides of the spectrum. Hear me, friends, this is not necessarily a bad thing, you and your spouse are your own beings, with two different minds that tick differently, and that's the beauty of marriage. You won't always see eye to eye, but there can be a middle ground found where you both are happy with the end results! But let me share our secret to great success in coming to a decision on heavy matters; peace.

Before I get into this next part, I want to add some scriptures that have been important in my walk of life when it comes to Peace. 2 Thessalonians 3:16 says, "Now, may the Lord himself, the Lord of PEACE, pour into you his peace in EVERY circumstance and in every possible way. The Lord's tangible presence be with you all."

Another is 1 Corinthians 14:33, "For God is the God of harmony, not confusion, as is the pattern in all the churches of God's holy believers."

And lastly, Psalm 94:19, "Whenever my busy thoughts were out of control, the soothing comfort of your presence calmed me down and overwhelmed me with delight."

And now we get back to my main point, Peace. As I stated earlier, my husband and I were propositioned to help out with a certain situation, and it was something that seemed good, but sometimes good things are not God things. We immediately put things to prayer, along with talking things through. Back in the day, my mom shared some wisdom with me that has been ingrained in me since, and that was "Go where your peace is, that's where the Lord is." Yall, I had NO peace, and that was something I was wrestling with due to the situation and wanting to help. Not to mention that it was a big deal for my husband as well, which caused some tension because I felt like the bad guy even though I wasn't. We sought counsel from some people that we trusted, knowing they would tell us the truth without picking sides, and that they could see things from both sides. And let me tell you, we were very thankful for the insight and wisdom that was brought to the table. We both had to sit down and really talk things out a few more times until we both came to the conclusion that there wasn't peace for either of us, and that above everything we had to take each other's feelings and thoughts and place that above the situation. This situation was honestly a good reminder for both of us due to the fact that we are only six months into our marriage. We need to protect our marriage, our peace, and our own sanity. Friends, hear me on this when you and your spouse put the Lord first, and then each other, there is no doubt that the Lord will give you peace in any decision that's needed. And sometimes even when there is peace there still may be some discomfort because the Lord will ask us to accept tough things while peace still reigns. It almost feels oxymoronic, but the Lord's ways are far higher than our own, and that's where we tap into faith. So to wrap this up, my encouragement to all who read this, married or not, know that when you put the Lord first in ALL things, and you learn how to communicate with your spouse, friend, or whoever it may be, you go where your peace is, know that the Lord is there in the midst. This was a big learning curve for my husband and me, and I am so thankful that the Lord had us walk through this together. We followed peace, and it didn't disappoint.

Phillippians 4:6-7, "Don't be pulled in different directions or worried about a thing. Be saturated in prayer throughout each day, offering your faith-filled requests before God with overflowing gratitude. Tell him every detail of your life, then God's wonderful peace that transcends human understanding, will guard your heart and mind through Jesus Christ."